Jealousy Won’t Kill A Relationship, This Will…

I thought the most common cause of a breakup is jealousy but after in a relationship for over 5 years now, I can confidently say it’s not.

It is “pride”.

Pride for me is the reason of most breakups. We are emotional beings and as humans, we have the tendency to acquire possessions and one of our most cherished is our other half.

That’s why you notice when you find out that your boyfriend or girlfriend is meeting someone without your permission, your first reaction is to get pissed and you feel betrayed and jealous.

The next thing you do is to ask and demand to find a favorable answer or else, intense arguments will follow. In other words, you get jealous and you feel not enough.

As a committed boyfriend or girlfriend, you have the right to ask and find out the truth but you should do it in a nice way, not in a way you’re condemning your other half.

Always remember that words hurt deeply than physical wounds. So make sure you control yourself and not utter words which will make the matter worse.

Even though you think you are in the correct position to demand an apology, always make it a habit to let your other half speaks first and don’t make prejudgement.

You have to cool down even if you’re boiling inside.

And if your other half asks for an apology and you feel it’s authentic, forgive her or him and don’t argue anymore especially if it happens for the first time.

But if you’re prejudgement is wrong, be the first one to ask for an apology and fix the problem right away. And let your other hand understand why you react that way.

If one is humble enough to accept mistakes and asks for an apology while the other one is forgiving, your relationship will surely lead to a happy ending.

So from now on, you can get jealous and manage it properly while keeping in mind that pride can kill your relationship if not handled properly.

Stay in love and spread it among others! God bless your relationship!

How To Maintain Spark In Your Relationship

The most common problem of relationship nowadays is that the spark which couples feel in the first stage of their relationship is nowhere to find later on.

The result is a breakup.

I feel sad whenever I find out that some of my friends have just experienced breakup especially if I know how much they love their partner and how long they’ve been in a relationship.

Well, I don’t have any control about it.

But I must do something in order to help couples maintain whatever feeling or spark they feel at the beginning of the relationship.  Thus, save them from being heartbroken and nurture the love that they have for each other.

Let me be clear: I’m not an expert or professional in this area.

Rather, I’m just an ordinary guy who dreams of helping others building a healthy and lasting relationship and share everything I know based on my own experience and research.

So if you are in a relationship now, this article is perfectly written for you especially if there’s no more spark in your relationship.

In order for you to absorb right away whatever I share below, I decided to keep them short and direct to the point. You can implement them starting today.

How To Maintain Spark in Your Relationship

1. Spend Time With Your Love

I always believe that if you really love someone, you have to invest time. And there are a lot of ways where you can spend it. If you are in a long-distance relationship, a simple update about what you’re doing and how your day is will already make a difference. Better than having no update at all. If the situation permits, you can do a video call or even a phone call. And if you are near each other, aside from chatting, you can meet often but not necessarily every day. You can go for a simple dinner and even a walk in the park. If you have extra budget, you can go for a movie and most importantly you go to church together or better yet serve together in a charismatic renewal community.

    2. Appreciate Each Other

We are an emotional creature and most of the time and most of the things we do involve emotions. It’s easy for you to appreciate your friends or officemates but you miss to appreciate the one you love. You miss noticing how beautiful the eyes of your girlfriend are and how perfect her smile is. And for ladies, you miss appreciating how fine the skin of your boyfriend is and how gentleman he is.

We all crave for appreciation and recognition. Even if we say we don’t need any of them but deep inside our heart we long for both of them. Each of us wants to feel important. Have you noticed how motivated you are when your boss appreciates you for a job well done? Don’t you notice how eager you share your stories of success to the one asking you about them?

So if you can appreciate others, what’s stopping you for not doing it to the one you love? Aren’t they as important as your career? Think about it, reflect and implement it right after you finish reading this.

     3. Focus on what’s common but work on what’s not

There is no perfect relationship. Every couple has their own share of struggles and arguments. It’s normal but doing them every single day is not. It’s alright to argue over things but never forget to fix and settle it right after. As much as possible don’t let a day pass without being reconciled.

Remember to attack the problem and not your partner.

This is the common cause of complications over simple things. Focus on the things you have in common and the things you both are interested to do. If you both love jogging, then jog together. If you both love sleeping, please encourage yourself to cook. Haha. Kidding aside.

As you focus on what’s common, keep in mind to work on what’s not at the same time. If you believe the things your partner is doing, is for good then show your support and interest. But if it’s not for good, then try to let your partner understand your view and opinion about it. Do it in a way not to offend your love.

You see there is nothing special about the things I’m sharing here. I believe you already know them and for sure other couples out there as well.

But I keep on wondering why there are still suffering heartbreaks and abandonment? Yes, there is no perfect relationship I understand that but let me take a wild guess here.

The reason why most relationships didn’t work out is the lack of consistency.

Consistency for me is the key.

Knowing all the things needed in order to maintain the spark in your relationship isn’t enough. You have to commit to love every day by being consistent in doing the things which can keep you both in love not just in the beginning but until the end.

Can you do me a little favor?

If you learn something out from this article, can you share it with your friends especially those who are in a relationship?

Thank you so much and stay in love!

God bless you and your relationship!

Loving you,

Lebert

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A Love Letter To My God’s Gift

Dearest GG,

I’ve been planning to write a short love letter to you but due to work schedule and time constraints, it takes a little bit longer for me to finish this.

Before you continue reading, I need to warn you not to cry. However, if you feel about crying, then cry. Lol.

Let me proceed now with my love letter. By the way, this letter will be a serious one because I write it with deep love and conviction.

First of all, I’d like to thank the Lord for giving me the opportunity to meet a beautiful soul in the vastness of His creations. Who would have thought that an ordinary guy from Bohol would get the chance to have a glimpse of an alluring lady from Isabela?

Honestly, never did I dream of falling in love with someone from the north. But who am I to question the will of the Lord? After all, I’m just also one of His unique creations. In short, I have to live with it.

Praise be to God always and forever.

I’m far from perfect that’s why from time to time I made and make mistakes but that still doesn’t change your love for me. You continue to accept and love me for who I am.

Sorry and thank you.

Sorry for not living out some of my commitments at times and thank you for always giving me enough time and chances to correct them. Thank you for making me feel special, for cooking me delicious and tasty foods, for dining out with me.

I would like to thank you for praying for me, for loving my family, for believing in my skills and capabilities. Thank you for being my number one supporter and reminding me constantly how blessed and powerful I am.

Thank you for not leaving me during the times I’m weak and hopeless, for uplifting my spirit to stand up and journey through life, that life is precious and so the plans of the Lord for me.

Thank you for listening to some of my pieces of advice and for working on your faith, for responding to God’s call for you. Thank you for being a good daughter and a woman of God.

There are still a lot of things I can thank you for but I will just reserve them during our wedding where we are free to cry and be emotional.

For the second part of this letter, I’d like to give all my praises to you like the way I praise the Lord.

Dearest Jexie, you are really a God’s Gift to me. I thought my life then was complete because I am happy but I was wrong. At this moment in my life, I can say that my life is complete because I already have you and that happiness I felt before now turns to joy.

Indeed, I’m just so blessed by the Lord.

I admire your courage to take on challenges at work and in your service to God and His people. I’m aware of your doubts and fears yet I have no doubt about the things you can do. I always believe in you.

Becoming a Discussion Group Leader and eventually a Household Leader isn’t an easy service to do but you proved to me that everything is possible as long as you’re doing it for the greater and higher purpose.

I’m simply amazed by you and how talented you are.

I’d like to mention about your patience for me and even to others at the same time your generosity as you don’t have a second thought of sharing whatever blessing you have especially to those who need help most.

You motivate me to do the same.

I know how you care and love your family members and surely whatever plans you have for them would soon become real because you work hard for them and you have a good intention of doing such.

I am really sure of what kind of family we will have in the future because I know how wonderful and how great you are as a lady, as a daughter, as a girlfriend and fiancee and as a servant of God.

I promise to keep this love letter short and I mean it. I still have a lot of things to say but the time wouldn’t allow me to. So expect more on the wedding day. Haha.

I’d like to end with this verse from Ephesians 4:2 that says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

God bless you, love!

Loving you always,

Lebert “Pogi” Omac