Sharing Our 40 Months Love Story

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Do you know that the number “40” is mentioned 156 times in Scripture?

It generally symbolizes a period of testing, trial, and probation. For the sake of this article, out of the 156, I will just mention a few of the significant events in the Bible.

Moses lived 40 years in Egypt and 40 years in the desert before God selected him to lead his people out of slavery. Moses was also on Mount Sinai for 40 days and nights, on two separate occasions (Exodus 24:18, 34:1-28), receiving God’s laws. He also sent spies, for 40 days, to investigate the land God promised the Israelites as an inheritance (Numbers 13:25, 14:34).

The prophet Jonah powerfully warned ancient Nineveh, for 40 days, that its destruction would come because of its many sins. The prophet Ezekiel laid on his right side for 40 days to symbolize Judah’s sins (Ezekiel 4:6). Elijah went 40 days without food or water at Mount Horeb. Jesus was tempted by the devil, not just three times, but many times during the 40 days and nights he fasted just before his ministry began. He also appeared to his disciples and others for 40 days after his resurrection from the dead.

Source: http://www.biblestudy.org/bibleref/meaning-of-numbers-in-bible/40.html

Do you now realize the significance of number “40”? I hope you do.

I did.

Because just recently, I and my girlfriend celebrated our 40 months together.  While pondering on what topic I will be writing today, I was inspired to share about our love story. For those who know already, forgive me once more. For those who don’t know yet, read on.

Honestly, the 40 months of being together was not a smooth-sailing journey. There were lots of detours and fights along the way but we still managed to hold on to our love and commitment.

We first met last April of 2013 while she still worked at DENR Region 2 in Tuguegarao City, Cagayan. I was on my official travel that time since I worked at DENR Central Office at Quezon City. For all the girls I met before, I don’t know but I had a different feeling towards her and I knew she had too. Lol.

To cut the long story short, we knew each other more and eventually became official months after we met. From then on, I am always inspired to work every day especially when I had to travel again in Region 2.

It was a long distance relationship (LDR) as it is popularly known. It’s really hard since we just met twice and most of the time, once a month. I traveled more or less 12 hours by bus just to reach her and, her, too, just to reach Quezon City. But the time and backaches were nothing when we finally saw each other again.

I agree that in every relationship, there were people that will come across your way just to create a scene and may ruin the relationship you have with the one you love. We never escaped that but thanks to God, we remain honest and committed. We continue to love and be happy.

I can describe our first year as more on knowing each other more. We shared some secrets on our own, our personal struggles and more. We had a lot of travels together, creating fun and lovely memories. The spark was on its highest level. Our Facebook walls were cluttered with our longgggggg posts and cheesy selfies and other immature things. We admit that and we have no regrets now. Because we believe that it’s just a part of a relationship.

Months after our 1st year, my girlfriend made a decision to go abroad. As much as I want to convince her not to go, I had no choice but to support her because, after all, it’s for her better future and ours eventually.

So I was left in the Philippines. By the way, I was not working at DENR anymore that time. I felt sad and empty at times. Good thing, with my new work, I traveled a lot at least I’m enjoying. Yes, in every LDR, the struggle is real especially if the time zones are different. Like in our case, she’s working in Abu Dhabi and I’m in the Philippines. We are 4 hours advance.

I stayed up late just to have a chat with her but sometimes I got disappointed that she still had a lot of things to do once she’s home. There were times I’m still awake even at 1 or 2am just to converse with her. We sacrificed a lot. Due to the inconsistent conversation and challenges of our time, it came to a point that we felt cold with each other. Our love faded a bit but still the hope was there. And here again, jealousy struck and a lot of not-so-good stories.

Behind all these, we managed to work on our relationship until I resigned from my job and took risk of pursuing my dreams abroad. In short, I followed her. I’m so excited that finally, we’ll be together again.

I applied for a job and been praying to get one in Abu Dhabi also. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to find a job for my first month. So I extended for another one month with the help of my girlfriend’s cousin. Until I finally got a job offer 1 day before my visa expires. Thanks be to God for such a blessing.

I was so happy then but unfortunately, I was assigned in Dubai. Still, we’re far from each other. Since she has 2 days off, she went to her cousin’s house twice a month. Sometimes once a month. And then we met.

I thought all will be fine since the different time zones challenge was not a problem anymore. Jealousy and lack of trust struck again. We had series of fights and misunderstandings to the point of affecting our disposition at work.  We didn’t learn from the past yet. So unfortunate.

Things started to get better on our way to the 3rd year. My manager transferred me to Abu Dhabi and finally there will be no more lot of issues to address on. We regularly met each other since we’re just neighbors. It was such a relief for both of us.

But I was wrong. Because jealousy and lack of trust struck again to the point that we reached to a cool off. I am the one who initiated it which she didn’t fully accept. She’s crying in front of me, begging me to change my decision but I was hard. I didn’t know what was inside of me until she left crying. I considered the next few days as an evaluation process because we realized a lot of things.

After a week, I accepted my fault and asked for forgiveness for the things I’ve done. I’m just so blessed that she had no hatred anymore and she understood my side. So here we are again.

The love story continues.

The next days and months were so far the best moments of our relationship. No more fights, no more jealousy and lack of trust. No more cheesy posts on Facebook. No more sweet PDAs. We decided to be discreet with our relationship. It is also a sign of maturity for both of us.

But wait, these are just some of those best things because the best of all the best things happened just last Friday when I saw my girlfriend committing and dedicating her life to our Lord Jesus Christ through Singles for Christ (SFC) after more than 3 months of formation together with other brothers and sisters in Christ. I really can’t describe the feeling I felt that very moment.

The joy was overflowing and will continue to overflow by the grace of the Lord.

We just celebrated our 40 months last November 03, the day before we dedicated our lives to our Lord Jesus Christ.

To you, my love, Jexie, thank you for saying YES to the Lord. We’ll journey together. God bless us both!

May God be praised!

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Praying for you,

Lebert

Author: Lebert Omac

Lebert is a forester by profession and currently working as a sales associate in Abu Dhabi, UAE. He comes from a simple family of Bohol, Philippines and is the breadwinner of their family. Aside from making sure that his family is provided with all their needs, he is also passionate about faith-building at the same time building healthy and lasting relationships with everyone, especially to his fiancee. On top of all the things he's doing now, he also dreams of building a God-fearing and God-centered family in the future and eventually make it a mission in order to build a peaceful society. Growing up in a family where he feels all the love and support push him to pursue this dream.