How To Stay POGI While Finding The Right One

How To Stay POGI While Finding The Right One

finding the right one

Almost 2 years ago I read about bestselling author Ardy Roberto’s book entitled “Real Men Are POGI” in which the contents really surprised me. I am surprised because before I read the book all I thought was that the term “POGI” only means literally but when I read through the pages I discovered that this means “Purity, Obedience, being Gentle and Intense.”

Okay I would not be talking more about that because in this article I’d like to focus on the other version of POGI here in Abu Dhabi, UAE. For those who already read about my previous blogs I mentioned there that I am a member of Ang Lingkod ng Panginoon”, a charismatic Catholic movement of single young professionals with the mission of “Christifying the Workplace”. Since it is an international movement and since I am currently based in Abu Dhabi, UAE, I am blessed to continue my service here.

Within the community, we have the small support group we call as “Action Group”, where we meet at least once a week. The first time I attended their meeting, I was amazed because the group has the name POGI which means “Presence Of God Inside”, obviously having different meaning with Ardy’s but when you think about it deeply they both point to the same God.

The Common Relationship Problems

As I observe the common problem nowadays are failed relationships. I have some friends that after years of being in a relationship with their partner, they ended up leaving each other. Sounds “sayang” right? Yet after few months they were with their new partner because as for them they need someone to love them and vice versa. To make it clear I am not judging them because that’s their choice and private life. However I won’t deny the fact that sometimes I am curious why there are situations like that. For sure there is a problem.

On the other hand there are also some of my friends that are afraid to enter in a relationship because they are afraid that they will also become a victim of a failed one. They just spend time waiting for the right one.

You Don’t Have To Be Like Them

I have good news for you. You don’t need to experience any of the two because you have a better choice. You are different and unique. While your goal is to find the right one, you should understand that all things take time to happen. You should be patient enough to wait and not rush things out. Here are some of the tips I can share you;

  • Be part and serve in a charismatic community where you can nurture your faith and relationship with the Lord
  • Be honest to yourself and be open to share about your goal and seek the support of your co-members
  • Tap someone within the community to be your prayer buddy or someone you are comfortable to talk with
  • Join fellowship and fun activities and make a decision to know more about others
  • Hang out in a small group and make sure that your prospect “right one” is present
  • Regularly seek God’s wisdom and ask the Holy Spirit to help you discern about your plans

These are only some of the tips I know. You can always add anything you think is worth applying as long as you care about the “respect and dignity” things. But the most important tip I know is this. I learned this from Bo Sanchez;

“In order to find the right one, you should be the first to act as the one right.”

Isn’t it amazing that while finding the right one, you are staying POGI inside and outside? When you possess both characteristics, I can guarantee you that you are on your way to finding the right one to be with you to eternity. Just always remember to consider God in all your decisions and actions. Keep the faith and be of service to others.
Stay POGI and God bless!
To your rich future,

Lebert “Futurich” Omac

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The Sacrifices Of A Loving Mother And What You Should Do

Mother’s-Sacrifice

Yes it is true that when you love someone, you have to sacrifice. You have to invest time just to be with the one you love. You have to make sure that he is safe. You have to sacrifice your own pleasure for his comfort. You have to think of his welfare first before your own. You have to show how much you love him every day of your life.

These are the “to- dos” if you choose to love. But for mothers their sacrifices are way beyond. So what are really the sacrifices of a loving mother? Let me share to you about my own mother.

I am a mama’s boy ever since. Every time I have problem I go to her. Every time I have concern in school I go to her.  She’s my source of comfort and everything. I witnessed how she sacrificed everything just to provide all our needs. I am fully aware that she woke up early in the morning to prepare our breakfast and “baon”. When we’re short of budget I saw her left our house early in the morning to borrow money and when she came back she already had the food for us. I witnessed how she sacrificed her own savings to pay our dues in school. I saw her tired of washing our clothes and ironing them for us to look presentable. I saw her joy and sadness every time we left the house on our way to school. I missed those times that the moment I arrived from school, dinner was already served. I saw her doing things which I believe should only be done by men such as firewood gathering, cleaning the motorcycle, rice harvesting and so many more. I saw her keeping all the hardships within herself because she didn’t want us to worry about her. For my mother all these sacrifices are worth it because she chose to love us.

For sure my mother’s sacrifices are your mother’s sacrifices too. In any case there are other things my mother is doing that your mother is not doing and there are things that your mother is doing that my mother is not doing. I am her witness and you too are witness of your own mother. As a witness of all these sacrifices I guess we have to do something. And what is that something?

This something is all about paying back. This time it should be our decision to give back everything our mothers deserve. That it’s our time to sacrifice for them. Yes career is our priority now but we shouldn’t forget to look back and put them on our priorities list. While we’re away and enjoying our life, we can’t disregard the fact that our mother is missing us so much. A constant communication and update will surely do. Let’s continue to pray and show them how much we care.

Loving is sacrificing. Don’t forget to look back. Search your heart and be grateful.

God bless you!

To your rich future,

Lebert “Futurich” Omac

P.S. The focus of this article is for mothers only and it doesn’t mean that I disregard the sacrifices of my father.

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What You Should Do When You Feel Unimportant

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For sure you will agree with me when I say that at one point in your life you feel unimportant. Unimportant in the sense that every time you’re in a group you can’t find yourself being part of them. That every time you say something their reaction is just ‘okay’ sometimes deadma. When you experience situation like this, tell me the truth, how does it feel?

You might feel hurt, disappointed, frustrated. The reality is that you can’t avoid such feeling because humans are emotional being and the hardest thing to do is how to control your emotions. And you can’t please anyone. You have no control of their reaction and response towards you. You and I have been in this type of situation and we don’t like the feeling every time we experience such. Am I getting it right?

So What You Should Do When You Feel Unimportant

Again, you have no control of others’ reactions towards you but the good news is you have full control of yourself as to how you handle them. If this happens almost all the time, I guess you need to step back and assess the situation. Don’t put all the blame on them but be honest to yourself that at some point you’re also accountable of the problem. Try to have a short break from the group just to have enough time for you to assess and make things right by coming up with possible solutions the moment you join with them again.

Another thing you can do is ask at least one of your friends whom you consider as the best one who can help you with your problem. Set a meeting with her/him or even just a virtual conversation just for you to express your disappointments and frustrations and make sure that he/she is willing to listen and help you. Be honest to every word you confess and let your emotions come out.

Don’t keep them yourself.

Aside from seeking help from your friend, you can also utilize your other time doing other things you really want to do. In other words do the things you are passionate about. You can go for a walk in the park. You can go fishing. You can go hiking. You can read and write. You play with your pets. You go for a vacation with your family. You go to retreats. You watch movies. Or you can just spend more time reflecting on your situation. In short, forget for the meantime your problem and just be happy and relax.

In order to counter the feeling of unimportance you can also watch video documentaries about people who successfully overcome the same feeling you have now. You can learn from them how they are able to do so. Read blogs on what to do when you feel unimportant. I am sure you’re not the only one having that feeling.

Most of all, I’d like to encourage you that every time you feel unimportant, just kneel down and pray. Spend more time with God. Read the Bible and study the Scriptures. Watch documentaries about the history of your faith. Research about stories of people who sacrificed their lives just to build the foundation of your faith. You can learn a lot of things from them.

Know more about God because He cares and loves you.

Yes that’s correct. Our God cares and loves you so much. Whenever you feel abandoned by your loved ones, your friends, your family, your teacher, your groupmates, your brothers and sisters in a community I’d like you to know that you were, are and will always be important in the eyes of the Lord. You are never as incomplete and as a failure as you think you are. Have faith that you have a purpose and He will reveal it to you in His perfect time.

From now on, don’t bother anymore every time you feel unimportant and irrelevant by those people whom you considered as your support and family. Why? Because God is enough. He’s the source of everything and if you’re with Him you will never ever, ever feel unimportant.

To your rich future,

Lebert “Futurich” Omac

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