How To Stay POGI While Finding The Right One

How To Stay POGI While Finding The Right One

finding the right one

Almost 2 years ago I read about bestselling author Ardy Roberto’s book entitled “Real Men Are POGI” in which the contents really surprised me. I am surprised because before I read the book all I thought was that the term “POGI” only means literally but when I read through the pages I discovered that this means “Purity, Obedience, being Gentle and Intense.”

Okay I would not be talking more about that because in this article I’d like to focus on the other version of POGI here in Abu Dhabi, UAE. For those who already read about my previous blogs I mentioned there that I am a member of Ang Lingkod ng Panginoon”, a charismatic Catholic movement of single young professionals with the mission of “Christifying the Workplace”. Since it is an international movement and since I am currently based in Abu Dhabi, UAE, I am blessed to continue my service here.

Within the community, we have the small support group we call as “Action Group”, where we meet at least once a week. The first time I attended their meeting, I was amazed because the group has the name POGI which means “Presence Of God Inside”, obviously having different meaning with Ardy’s but when you think about it deeply they both point to the same God.

The Common Relationship Problems

As I observe the common problem nowadays are failed relationships. I have some friends that after years of being in a relationship with their partner, they ended up leaving each other. Sounds “sayang” right? Yet after few months they were with their new partner because as for them they need someone to love them and vice versa. To make it clear I am not judging them because that’s their choice and private life. However I won’t deny the fact that sometimes I am curious why there are situations like that. For sure there is a problem.

On the other hand there are also some of my friends that are afraid to enter in a relationship because they are afraid that they will also become a victim of a failed one. They just spend time waiting for the right one.

You Don’t Have To Be Like Them

I have good news for you. You don’t need to experience any of the two because you have a better choice. You are different and unique. While your goal is to find the right one, you should understand that all things take time to happen. You should be patient enough to wait and not rush things out. Here are some of the tips I can share you;

  • Be part and serve in a charismatic community where you can nurture your faith and relationship with the Lord
  • Be honest to yourself and be open to share about your goal and seek the support of your co-members
  • Tap someone within the community to be your prayer buddy or someone you are comfortable to talk with
  • Join fellowship and fun activities and make a decision to know more about others
  • Hang out in a small group and make sure that your prospect “right one” is present
  • Regularly seek God’s wisdom and ask the Holy Spirit to help you discern about your plans

These are only some of the tips I know. You can always add anything you think is worth applying as long as you care about the “respect and dignity” things. But the most important tip I know is this. I learned this from Bo Sanchez;

“In order to find the right one, you should be the first to act as the one right.”

Isn’t it amazing that while finding the right one, you are staying POGI inside and outside? When you possess both characteristics, I can guarantee you that you are on your way to finding the right one to be with you to eternity. Just always remember to consider God in all your decisions and actions. Keep the faith and be of service to others.
Stay POGI and God bless!
To your rich future,

Lebert “Futurich” Omac

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