Being a couple doesn’t mean you have to tell everything to your partner. You must admit that there are things which you only should know especially highly confidential matters.
When you’re already married, maybe you can share those with your wife or husband but when you’re still boyfriend or girlfriend, I advise you not. You can’t tell what will happen tomorrow so it’s better to be safe than sorry.
Also, another important thing you have to understand is that being in love doesn’t mean being dumb. You still have to use your common sense. Some couples will regularly check the Facebook account of his or her partner to see if she or he is not chatting with another man or woman.
If until now, you’re still doing this, I encourage you to stop it. It won’t bring you happiness. Instead, it will bring you a problem. This simply means you don’t trust your partner and you’re giving yourself a lot of stress.
If in case your partner is doing anything wrong, she or he is responsible for it and the emerging consequences.
During the first year of our relationship, this is what we are doing and you know what happened? It almost ended our relationship and the moment my fiancé and I stopped doing such, our relationship gets better each day.
The reason why most relationships fail is that because the couple doesn’t know the difference between influence and control.
Influence for me is telling your partner the right things to do or much better showing to your partner the things she or he should not do.
Control is imposing on your partner the things he/she should do and not do. It’s like you always have the say over things in your relationship.
Unfortunately, many couples have this problem. One is controlling while the other party is allowing to be controlled. It shouldn’t be like that. For a relationship to last long, there should be respect and limitations.
One should respect the other party at the same time the latter should know the limitations towards the former.
In this way, none will feel inferior nor superior. It seems like both are equal. And it should be like that. You see some relationships fail because one is being too clingy that the other person feels useless.
In our relationship, though before we somehow struggle with influence over control, we try to do our best to do away with being controlling and controlled. We make sure that there’s a balance and that’s one key why we are getting stronger every single day of our relationship.
Aside from love, the next most important key to a lasting relationship is time.
Obviously, if you love someone, you have to spend time with the one you love. Either you meet personally from time to time or you call or chat with each other.
If you don’t have time to contact or meet your boyfriend or girlfriend, it simply means you don’t have love.
What’s the point of being in a relationship where you don’t have time for each other? It’s better to cut it as early as now before it’s too late.
Having time with each other is one of the ways of telling that you are committed to your partner.
Commitment isn’t a thing which should be taken for granted. It should be lived every day of your life, especially in your relationship.
Since I and my fiancé became official as boyfriend and girlfriend, we made it sure that we had enough time with each other despite busy schedules.
It’s crucial for us since we were from each other then. We didn’t allow a day to pass without us updating about the things we did for the day.
And that commitment made us to who we are now.
A simple update from one of us means a lot to our relationship.
See, the patience and commitment pay off in due time and that is because we decided to have time with each other.