How To Properly Discern And Make The Right Choice
What is discernment?
Discernment is the ability to obtain sharp perception or to judge well. In the case of judgement, discernment can be psychological or moral in nature. In the sphere of judgement, discernment involves going past the mere perception of something and making nuanced judgements about its properties or qualities. Considered as a virtue, a discerning individual is considered to possess wisdom, and be of good judgement; especially so with regard to subject matter often overlooked by others. (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Discernment)
Usually when we hear the word “discernment”, the first thing that comes to our mind is about priesthood. Admittedly, that was my perception before but as I grew up I realized that discernment doesn’t only apply to priesthood. Discernment is a gift from God and each of us has given equal chance to discover and develop it. As stated above, it is a virtue and once you master it, people will think you are man of wisdom. Isn’t it good to master this gift?
What does the Bible say about discernment?
“And this I pray , that your love may abound still more and more in knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve the things that are excellent, in order to be sincere and blameless until the day of Christ.” – Philippians 1:9-10
Absolutely, proper discernment is so important in choosing the right things to do – things that are pleasing in the eyes of the Lord. Discernment should be done by listening and submitting to the will of the Lord. A person who is undergoing discernment should always seek the enlightenment from the Holy Spirit. By carefully discerning everything you do especially the major decisions you make in life, you can ensure finer and better results.
How to properly discern and make the right choice?
Knowing the theoretical background of discernment is crucial before you start the actual process. Once they’re clear, you’re now ready to dive to the practical side. This brief practical steps for discernment and making the right choice are taken from (http://anunslife.org/resources/4-steps-for-discernment-and-decision-making), where Sister Mary McDevitt uses the discernment example question, “Should I go to graduate school or not?” These will surely help you out.
- I pray and stay in the presence of God often.
- I ask God to give me the freedom of spirit.
- I try to say to God, “Whatever choice is your will, it’s ok with me”.
- When I lift up each choice to God – e.g., about going to graduate school – I notice my heart says. I check my thoughts, too, and the long-range consequences of this action.
- Write down two columns for each choice.
- I line up the pros and cons of the situations. Two columns on why I would not go to graduate school — the good side (pro), and the not-so-good side (con).
- Then I do the same with the reverse: the pros and cons of going to grad school.
- I pray over the list and see which reasons are most moving, most serious and which affect my relationships with other people.
- One expert suggests: Be on your death-bed and ask which choice you would be glad you made.
- For Christians: Bring the decision and kneel under the Cross of Christ. How does it make sense there? Will this decision bring me closer to Jesus Christ in my living the Gospel?
- Time for confirmation.
- Once I have made a tentative decision, I talk it over with those who know me.
- I wait a while and see if I feel peaceful in this decision as it becomes clearer.
- Choose, act and be grateful.
- One or many of these steps may guide me. I may wish to do these steps with a spiritual companion.
These are some of the practical tips on how to properly discern which you can apply in any decision you are going to make in life. You can base your judgement from them and last thing I would like to recommend is you get a spiritual adviser or co-discerner whom you can talk to and ask for confirmation anytime, anywhere.
Disclaimer: I am not an expert about discernment that’s why I researched and got most of the contents from the people who are knowledgeable enough to discuss about this topic.
God bless you!
To your rich future,
Lebert “Futurich” Omac
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