What is the most painful experience you have in life? How did you handle it? What happens after?
To give you an idea, read this inspiring story;
Hi I’m Joanner,
I’m the 3rd from the youngest of our family. My mother is a plain housewife while my father is a tailor at the same time a farmer.
Originally, I dreamed of becoming a priest simply because I wanted to help uplift the morale and life of the people in our community. Of course, one of my dreams is to provide a better life for my family and future family.
I also dreamed of having my own business and comfortable house living with my own happy family. I took up Engineering in college for a year before I shifted to Computer Course because of my friends’ and cousins’ influences.
Struggles and Challenges
During my grade school days, all of the things I used in school were those previously used by my sister and my bag back then was only given by my cousin because my father only went home on weekends. Usually, I was the one requested by my grandfather and grandmother in taking care of their carabao, while planting vegetables and helping them on the farm.
I remembered one day I fell from the carabao and my face hit the ground. The day after, my face was swollen which became the reason I was bullied in school. Yes, it was really a struggle for me.
I thought the struggle would stop once I enter high school. I was wrong because, for the 1st and 2nd year, I went to school using a bicycle just to save money. Our school is very far from our place that’s why I need to travel 4 times just to reach the place. Hence, it’s impossible for me to walk. There were times when I went home in the middle of the night and the worst experience I had was when it rains. I also had a funny experience when I was followed by a dog.
The good thing happened in my 3rd year when my father bought a tricycle. At least, this time, I am comfortable and I didn’t need to worry about the darkness, the rain, and the dogs. I endured all these hardships because I really wanted to finish my studies.
The sense of comfort continued when I entered college because my father’s share of my grandparents land was finally sold. We had the money. But still, I felt the loneliness and disappointment when every time my aunts were going to a vacation, dinner or to a place away from our home. They never invited my parents to join with them.
We likewise never received any gift from them even when there were family occasions. It hurts us more when we found out that our other cousins received gifts from them. In other words, they treated us differently.
I also struggled when my mother died. I went home from abroad. Actually, it’s my first ever vacation. I’m so sad because I never fulfilled my promise to her. I lost hope and found life meaningless that time.
This was maybe the biggest heartbreak I experienced so far. When the one I truly love and spent most of my time with got married to another man. We’re in a relationship for 5 years until one day she went for a vacation only to find out from his father that she was busy preparing for a wedding with another man. My world crumbled and I almost couldn’t endure the pain I felt.
I even came to a point of ending my life because the pain was just too much to bear.
But then the Lord is so faithful. He sent people to comfort me in this trying time. I can really feel His love and compassion.
Before her wedding, I sent her a message saying I already forgave her for what she has done. I also requested her to talk with me personally once she comes back to formally close our relationship. This was so because I didn’t want to feel the pain anymore. I wanted to forget about her.
I thought it would be that easy to move on but with the grace of the Lord I was able to accept all of those things for over a year. Though the most difficult thing was that until now she didn’t tell me the real reason for her unexpected decision.
Successes and Wins
Let’s go back to my education stories. Yes, despite all the challenges I faced every day, I rewarded my parents with my medals and certificates in elementary and high school years. I even became one of the most outstanding students in college. Because I knew deep in myself about their sacrifices, I made them as my inspiration to study hard and be successful in life and to fulfill my dreams for my family.
After college, I went overseas with the help of my uncle. He’s very supportive though we’re not so close that time. I stayed with him. Even though I’m not used to doing household chores, I volunteered to cook, wash the laundries, iron the clothes and help in other chores. That time, it’s hard for me to find a job because the country where I worked at was affected by the bombing of the WTC in the US. However, I was blessed to be hired by one of the prestigious group of companies in their retail division.
I worked as Counter Sales Person for almost 6 months and I proved to my manager that I can do more that’s why I was promoted and was transferred to the Head Office as purchaser and inventory in-charge of all our shops. But I never stopped dreaming BIG, and after almost 5yrs, I transferred to a local insurance company and happily working for so many years now.
The Lessons Learned
I learned a lot from my experiences. I learned to love all the people, especially those, are chasing success but the success is always running away from them. I remind them to remain strong and motivated. I tell them to never give up on their dreams.
Poverty is not an excuse to success. Instead, poverty is a motivation for success. Trust God in all the decisions you do. Believe that He has a great plan for you.
Remember my original dream? Becoming a priest? Yes, it was.
Though I’m not able to fulfill this dream, still, the Lord is faithful. Because now I’m very happy serving Him in a charismatic Catholic community of Single Young Professionals based in UAE. While serving, I also regularly send money to my family and relatives. I also have my own savings and real estate investments.
My Piece of Advice
Make your past as your inspiration and don’t keep grudge from the people who mistreat you before. Instead of hating them, you should love them and thank God for sending them to your life. Because without them, you might not end up strong. They are your motivation to strive for your dreams in life.
Just hold on to God for He is the Author of your life and only in Him can we find all the things we need in this life.
Thank you for reading,