Influence Over Control

Influence Over Control

The reason why most relationships fail is that because the couple doesn’t know the difference between influence and control.

Simply put.

Influence for me is telling your partner the right things to do or much better showing to your partner the things she or he should not do.

Control is imposing on your partner the things he/she should do and not do. It’s like you always have the say over things in your relationship.

Unfortunately, many couples have this problem. One is controlling while the other party is allowing to be controlled. It shouldn’t be like that. For a relationship to last long, there should be respect and limitations.

One should respect the other party at the same time the latter should know the limitations towards the former.

In this way, none will feel inferior nor superior. It seems like both are equal. And it should be like that. You see some relationships fail because one is being too clingy that the other person feels useless.

In our relationship, though before we somehow struggle with influence over control, we try to do our best to do away with being controlling and controlled. We make sure that there’s a balance and that’s one key why we are getting stronger every single day of our relationship.

Lebert Omac

Lebert is a forester by profession and currently working as a sales associate in Abu Dhabi, UAE. He comes from a simple family of Bohol, Philippines and is the breadwinner of their family. Aside from making sure that his family is provided with all their needs, he is also passionate about faith-building at the same time building healthy and lasting relationships with everyone, especially to his fiancee. On top of all the things he's doing now, he also dreams of building a God-fearing and God-centered family in the future and eventually make it a mission in order to build a peaceful society. Growing up in a family where he feels all the love and support push him to pursue this dream.
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