The most common problem of relationship nowadays is that the spark which couples feel in the first stage of their relationship is nowhere to find later on.
The result is a breakup.
I feel sad whenever I find out that some of my friends have just experienced breakup especially if I know how much they love their partner and how long they’ve been in a relationship.
Well, I don’t have any control about it.
But I must do something in order to help couples maintain whatever feeling or spark they feel at the beginning of the relationship. Thus, save them from being heartbroken and nurture the love that they have for each other.
Let me be clear: I’m not an expert or professional in this area.
Rather, I’m just an ordinary guy who dreams of helping others building a healthy and lasting relationship and share everything I know based on my own experience and research.
So if you are in a relationship now, this article is perfectly written for you especially if there’s no more spark in your relationship.
In order for you to absorb right away whatever I share below, I decided to keep them short and direct to the point. You can implement them starting today.
How To Maintain Spark in Your Relationship
1. Spend Time With Your Love
I always believe that if you really love someone, you have to invest time. And there are a lot of ways where you can spend it. If you are in a long-distance relationship, a simple update about what you’re doing and how your day is will already make a difference. Better than having no update at all. If the situation permits, you can do a video call or even a phone call. And if you are near each other, aside from chatting, you can meet often but not necessarily every day. You can go for a simple dinner and even a walk in the park. If you have extra budget, you can go for a movie and most importantly you go to church together or better yet serve together in a charismatic renewal community.
2. Appreciate Each Other
We are an emotional creature and most of the time and most of the things we do involve emotions. It’s easy for you to appreciate your friends or officemates but you miss to appreciate the one you love. You miss noticing how beautiful the eyes of your girlfriend are and how perfect her smile is. And for ladies, you miss appreciating how fine the skin of your boyfriend is and how gentleman he is.
We all crave for appreciation and recognition. Even if we say we don’t need any of them but deep inside our heart we long for both of them. Each of us wants to feel important. Have you noticed how motivated you are when your boss appreciates you for a job well done? Don’t you notice how eager you share your stories of success to the one asking you about them?
So if you can appreciate others, what’s stopping you for not doing it to the one you love? Aren’t they as important as your career? Think about it, reflect and implement it right after you finish reading this.
3. Focus on what’s common but work on what’s not
There is no perfect relationship. Every couple has their own share of struggles and arguments. It’s normal but doing them every single day is not. It’s alright to argue over things but never forget to fix and settle it right after. As much as possible don’t let a day pass without being reconciled.
Remember to attack the problem and not your partner.
This is the common cause of complications over simple things. Focus on the things you have in common and the things you both are interested to do. If you both love jogging, then jog together. If you both love sleeping, please encourage yourself to cook. Haha. Kidding aside.
As you focus on what’s common, keep in mind to work on what’s not at the same time. If you believe the things your partner is doing, is for good then show your support and interest. But if it’s not for good, then try to let your partner understand your view and opinion about it. Do it in a way not to offend your love.
You see there is nothing special about the things I’m sharing here. I believe you already know them and for sure other couples out there as well.
But I keep on wondering why there are still suffering heartbreaks and abandonment? Yes, there is no perfect relationship I understand that but let me take a wild guess here.
The reason why most relationships didn’t work out is the lack of consistency.
Consistency for me is the key.
Knowing all the things needed in order to maintain the spark in your relationship isn’t enough. You have to commit to love every day by being consistent in doing the things which can keep you both in love not just in the beginning but until the end.
Can you do me a little favor?
If you learn something out from this article, can you share it with your friends especially those who are in a relationship?
Thank you so much and stay in love!
God bless you and your relationship!
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