Have you been to a relationship before or shall I say have you been to a break-up at least once in your single life?
If you’ve been, I’d assume you’ve already figured out the root cause of its ending. On the other hand, if you don’t experience it yet, you have to be careful.
Because every relationship if not handled well will surely lead to tears and heartaches and I believe you don’t want to reach to that point, right?
But don’t worry.
I’m not writing this to scare you. In fact, I would like to help you.
As you see, after every breakup it’s so easy to blame others. You can enumerate all the mistakes your partner have done. But it’s difficult to ask yourself and admit that you’ve done wrong too.
If this is how everyone acts, no wonder there are a lot of failed relationships. I won’t be surprised if there are a lot of broken hearts too.
For the past 6 years of our relationship, I can confidently say that there are really a lot of factors for a relationship to fail but there is the one I consider deadly.
And this is the one who is responsible for the majority of breakups. The tricky thing is that you can’t even see it.
But you have it.
It’s embedded through your whole being and in case you fail to acknowledge it you are instantly in the losing end so you better watch out.
Are you ready to know what is this I’m talking about here?
Yes, you read it right.
It is one’s pride. It is your pride. It is my pride.
I’m not saying having pride is wrong because we all have it and we actually need it as emotional beings.
But you have to use it the right way.
Every relationship problem emanates from pride. That’s why it is considered as the top of the seven deadly sins.
When you hurt your partner, be the first one to ask forgiveness. If you do it late chances are it will bear another problem and so on and so forth.
And mind you, asking forgiveness doesn’t make you less as a person. In fact, it will improve your life. It will even add years of your life (simply Google it why). It’s true I’m not kidding.
Now that you know that it is pride that can potentially kill your relationship with the one you love, you must kill it first before it destroys your heart.
*As I’ve mentioned earlier, asking forgiveness first is a good way to start even if you know you haven’t done wrong.
This way, you value your relationship more than your own goodwill.
*Another thing you can do is to treat your partner as a gift from the Lord. Learn to say thank you and appreciate every little thing you have.
There will always be misunderstandings and “tampuhan” moments but if you know by yourself that your partner is a blessing from above, you will choose to understand and by so doing you are already showing how humble you are as an individual.
Thus, pride has no chance to strike even if it wants to.
*Last but not the least is to accept that you are not perfect, that you are also a sinner and that you don’t know everything.
If you accept that anytime you can also do wrong, pride won’t have enough place in your heart anymore.
I hate to see someone’s life destroyed because of a toxic and failed relationship that’s why I’m writing this to at least help you in the simplest way possible.
I consider every relationship as an opportunity to serve our partner and most importantly to share the love that each of us receives from the Lord himself. Life in itself is a blessing from Him and one of the best ways to celebrate it is to live each day with humility and freedom to love and be loved truly.
Let’s set aside our own pride and strive to have lasting and God-centered relationships from now on. Life is short. Let’s be humble enough and reach out to those who are in tears too.
Kill the killer before it gets in the way!
God bless you, my friend!
P.S. Please share this to your friends as well especially those you think will need this the most. Thank you for reading, and have a great day ahead!